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It’s Okay to Want Recognition: Why Acknowledging Our Efforts Matters

Somewhere along the line, many of us were taught that wanting recognition makes us needy, self-centered, or attention-seeking. Maybe you heard things like “Don’t fish for compliments,” or “Just do your job and don’t expect a pat on the back.” These messages can create a belief that our desire to be seen and acknowledged is something to be ashamed of.



But here’s the truth: it’s human to want our efforts to be noticed. And it’s healthy to want to feel appreciated for the energy, time, and care we pour into what we do.

Whether it’s in the workplace, within relationships, in parenting, caregiving, or creative pursuits—most of us aren’t doing what we do just for the applause. We’re motivated by purpose, love, responsibility, or passion. But that doesn’t mean we don’t also want to feel seen in it. Wanting recognition doesn’t mean you’re doing it “for the wrong reasons.” It means you’re human. We are wired for connection, and part of that connection includes feeling valued.


Wanting Recognition Isn't About Ego—It's About Validation



Being acknowledged isn’t about feeding your ego. It’s about feeling like your contributions matter. Recognition tells us: I see you. I notice your effort. What you’re doing is meaningful.

When we work hard and no one notices—or worse, when someone else gets credit for our efforts—it can lead to resentment, burnout, and even self-doubt. We may start to question, Is what I’m doing even making a difference? Am I being taken for granted?

The absence of acknowledgment doesn’t just impact our morale. It can impact our motivation, our sense of belonging, and our self-worth. Especially in environments where giving 110% becomes the norm and the baseline, it’s easy for exceptional effort to be expected but never recognized.


It’s Okay to Name the Need



If you find yourself feeling underappreciated, it’s okay to say something. You don’t have to pretend it doesn’t bother you. You don’t have to stuff down your feelings or gaslight yourself into thinking you're “being too sensitive.”

Sometimes we assume that others should know how hard we’re working. And maybe they should. But people are often wrapped up in their own stress, to-do lists, or blind spots. That doesn’t mean your need for recognition is invalid—it just means you might need to advocate for it.


Saying something like, “It would really mean a lot to hear feedback or acknowledgment when I put in extra effort,” is not weakness. It’s a form of healthy communication. It's a boundary. It's an act of self-respect.


Recognize Yourself, Too



While it’s absolutely okay to want external validation, it’s also powerful to practice internal validation. That means taking time to notice and appreciate your own effort—even if no one else sees it.

You can ask yourself:

  • What did I push through today that no one knows about?

  • What am I proud of in the way I showed up?

  • Where did I give something my best, even if the outcome wasn’t perfect?

You can be your own witness. You can honor the work no one claps for. And still—you are allowed to want others to clap, too.


Final Thoughts


Needing or wanting recognition doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. In a world that often tells us to stay humble, and misconstrues humility for silence. To keep our heads down, and not expect anything in return—it takes courage to say, “I want to be seen.”

So if you’ve been craving acknowledgment lately, you’re not being dramatic. You’re not being ungrateful. You’re honoring a real and valid need.

And that’s something worth recognizing, too.

 
 
 

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