How to Stop Feeling Anxious (With Real-Life Options)
- Emily DeMalto
- Apr 24
- 3 min read
Let’s be honest: if you’ve ever googled “how to stop feeling anxious,” you were probably hoping for a quick fix. Something like “Drink this magical tea, and you’ll never worry again.” We want the shortcut — the solution. And who can blame us?

Anxiety is uncomfortable, overwhelming, and sometimes downright exhausting.
But here’s the thing: anxiety isn’t something that gets fixed like a broken sink. It’s something that gets understood. And while there’s no one-size-fits-all magic button, there are tools — that can make anxiety more manageable and less all-consuming. These aren’t gimmicks. They’re small shifts that can make a big difference.
1. Name It to Tame It: Naming It Can Help Stop It

Anxiety thrives in vagueness. When we’re feeling anxious, our thoughts can swirl into an emotional tornado, and everything feels equally threatening. But one way to ground yourself is to label what’s happening.
Instead of “I feel awful,” try, “I’m feeling anxious because I have a big meeting tomorrow and I’m worried I’ll mess up.” Naming it helps activate the thinking part of your brain, which gives you a little distance from the emotional storm.
2. Shift from “What If” to “What Is”: Stop The Overthinking

Anxiety loves the future. It’s always trying to convince you that something bad might happen. It whispers “what ifs” that can spiral quickly.
Try countering with, “What is true right now?” Maybe right now, you’re safe. You’re breathing. You’re doing your best. When we anchor ourselves in the present, it calms our nervous system and helps interrupt the endless loop of what-ifs.
3. Move Your Body (Yes, Even a Little)

We tend to think anxiety is just in our heads, but it’s very much in our bodies, too. When you feel like your heart is racing or your muscles are tense, that’s your nervous system sounding an alarm.
A quick “hack” here is to get moving — not as punishment, but as a release. Walk around the block, stretch your arms, shake it out (yes, literally). You’re helping your body discharge some of that anxious energy instead of letting it bottle up.
4. Interrupt the Thought Spiral Gently

You can’t out-think anxiety with logic alone. But you can learn to pause and create space around the thought.
Try saying to yourself, “This is a worry story my brain is telling me. I don’t have to follow it.” You don’t have to wrestle the thought or prove it wrong — just recognize it’s there and choose not to feed it.
Bonus: writing it down can help. Getting the worry out of your head and onto paper often shrinks it down to size.
5. Let It Ride (Instead of Fighting It)

This one’s hard, but powerful: instead of trying to push anxiety away, try allowing it. Anxiety isn’t dangerous — just uncomfortable. The more we fight it, the louder it gets.
Try saying: “I notice this feeling. It’s not fun, but I can let it be here and still live my life.” You’d be surprised how much relief comes when you stop running from anxiety and start walking alongside it.
The Real “solution”? Self-Compassion.
There’s no secret password to eliminate anxiety forever — and that’s okay. The truth is, you don’t need to be anxiety-free to live a meaningful, joyful life. You just need tools, support, and a big dose of kindness toward yourself when things feel hard.
So next time anxiety shows up, don’t panic. Try one of these small shifts. Breathe. Remind yourself: “This is just a moment. I’ve been here before. I know how to take care of myself.”
That’s the real hack — and it’s one you can carry with you, anytime.
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